If nothing else, showing that you've read SSM might show her that YOU are really trying....invite her to read it, but don't be surprised if she doesn't....and don't take that as a form of rejection either.
If you feel you want to show her affection...give her a hug, give her a kiss....then do it, but try to stay away from the R talk as much as possible. I truly do believe that continuing to show affection and staying consistent in his actions is what has had an affect on csw's W.
True, your situations aren't quite the same....but in many ways, they aren't so different either. His actions towards his W have been consistently loving, he's walked up behind her hugged her and kissed her neck....now sometimes she didn't respond, other times she cried (partly from guilt I'm sure)...other times she responded a little.
It's actions like that which will slowly melt away at your W's heart. Unfortunatley there's no magic time-frame for the healing to happen and for you two to reconnect. BUT if you love her, and if YOU want to keep your M together....you keep trying until you simply don't have it in you to try anymore. My guess is too...that if you really get to that point, her rejection isn't really going to bother you all that much anymore...because you'll be finished too.
I would really urge you to try a new C though...a new perspective on your situation's might be what's in order for you two right now.
