Hi GEL, I reread my post and noticed too that I blamed her. It's just taht I have worked really hard on everything she has asked of me and she acknowledges that I have made real changes so far,and says she likes the way I am with the kids now, but then says that she still has no desire for me.
I just feel that I am not sure how much more hurt I can feel and rejection. I know this is feeling sorry for myself and that I need to stop that, but it is very hard. I get the take charge of what I want (her) attitude, but when that is met coldly, what is one to do?
Another year? What do I do with the affection I want to show her for this whole time? I think this is what really gets me down. I just want to give her a big hug and make up.
I am not going to move out.
Should I give her SSM? NOPkins suggested I do and I don't want to push, but would this be helpful at this point?