NOP, You are right, bad timing on my part. I had offered SSM in the past, also at a bad time. I may need to do more work before offering it again. Now I feel I am being selfish.
She does feel that she will never meet my expectations, but that's not true. I still love her very much and would love to see things work.
Mrs. NOP, I have been critical of her in the past and this has made her feel like she could never please me, that nothing was good enough (in everyday life, not intimately although I now think she applies this to our love life as well). She has helped me see how my criticism has been hurtful and I understand that now. It is just hard for me to understand how she can't forgive me and try to move on. She says this could take a long time, if ever.
