I appreciate that you want your wife to understand how you feel.
Let her read SSM, not shortchanged' posts. That will only make it worse. She needs to read about solutions, not complaints right now. It is no wonder that she feels like she will never measure up.
Go and ask her to forgive your bad sense of timing with the print out, and then offer SSM for her to read. It is written by a 'low drive' woman - and she happens to know what she is talking about.
As for the emotional affair. You need to find out what the appeal was for your wife. That information will contain a need that she has that YOU ARE NOT MEETING. You both need to sit down and discuss that affair at length. You simply must put the elephant out of the bedroom. She very likely still has fond feelings for this guy.
An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. Find out what is fueling her entitlement.
You fix your sex starved marriage by fixing your marriage.
All the best, -NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
