NOP,
I don't think she talks with OM anymore, but it is hard for me to know for sure. She works part time and me full time, so there is opportunity...

I have never abused her, never even cussed at her until once recently. I've always been steadfastly faithful (for now).

I have lingering suspicions of her EA or PA. I don't feel that she ever leveled with me, but many tell me that she probably never will.

I had limited success with snooping. Not sure what to do/look for at this point. Any thoughts?

I hear what you are saying about being needy,etc. I am becoming more collected each day.