I don't think anyone would tell you that you should "feel" happy about this situation, that would just be asking far too much of anyone in your situation....but acting "as if" does have it's merits. It can be a self-fulfilling prophecy...where you act "as if" until you aren't acting anymore and the situation is the way you want it to be.
It's hard to do I know, but it truly does have it's merits. And forgiveness IS a choice...just as holding a grudge IS a choice. I'll be interested to hear what you C says.
