She says she may not ever want to be intimate again, and she may truly feel that way....right now. But I cannot impress upon you enough the impact the emotional connection can have on the physical one. It's that emotional connection that can help someone who is LD want to be more physical with you.
It may not be because they actually have those sparks of sexual attraction, that's something many LD people either squelch in themselves...or have learned to ignore. But if you have that emotional connection going it makes it so much easier for her to want to make you happy...and that in turn can roll over in to you SR.
Also you mentioned that she's either LD or ND and that it may run in the family...has she ever been checked out by a Dr.? Or is this something that perhaps she's learned? If she's learned it...she can unlearn it, if it's truly a physical problem...there's a good chance it can be treated.
I still suggest though that if this is bothering you...you address it in the C sessions if for no other reason than the fact that you feel she's setting a parameter for your R.
