Indespair, listen to GEL. She is a winner when it comes to relationships. BTW, it's OK to get smacks up side the head. It shows people care here on the BB.
Quote: I cancelled my reservation. This past year has not been good which we would both admit. I don't really feel like celebrating the past year of our marriage. I asked her what she wanted to do. She said she would think about it. I guess that is a positive thing since she would usually say "whatever you want"
Be a take charge guy sometimes. Women like consideration but they don't like wimps. Sometimes you have to act "as if" things are working well between you two.
It's like you asking "W what do you want for your birthday" and she replys "nothing." If you get her "nothing" you screwed up and she will hold it against you. So when she says "what ever" put that in the same group as "nothing", ignore it and do what is the proper thing to do. Several disasters later I learned this lesson myself. don't make the mistakes, I made by listening to the "nothings" or "what evers." I have aniversery, birthday, and mothersday all with in a few weeks and at times let a few of the occassions get by with small gifts or dinners. Not the thing to do BTW.
Some women think you should be able to read their mind and if you have to ask, you are not picking up on their mental vibes. Sorry, I am not a "vibe reader." I suspect you are not either
Do the dinner alone with your W. "You" should also arrange for the child care. Say to W "Is ________ a good sitter or would you rather have ____________.
If she complains about going to a good restaurant, no one will listen to her, she knows that. It might not get the M back on track but it will remove any new reasons to split up.
And if things are "BAD" maybe she is looking for reasons to leave. Not trying to borrow trouble BTW, so maybe I am going over board here. I am not there, you are. What does it look like to you?
