Well to be honest when it comes to "obsessing"...I replied to my H one time "I'm sure it looks like I'm obsessing about sex and maybe I am, don't you find you think about something quite frequently when there's something you want or need but don't get? Once you get it...you stop thinking ab out it." I've explained to my H that "sex" is really not the top priority in our R for me, although it may seem that way...sex for me is wonderful, it's gratifying, it's many things....but having it frequently (meaning several times a week) for me...isn't all that important. The absence of sex however is VERY important. With that I explained if we were ML on a fairly regular basis...even if that basis was once a week or once every two weeks....I'd be fine because that would at a minimum fill my need (sure I could go for more...but that would fill my need)...then he would see I really don't obsess about sex at all. However, ML 4x a year...is an absence of sex in my POV....and there fore sure, I look like I obsess about it.
