I know you "feel" you've pushed her too hard already....but here's something I've noticed, and I think Honeypot will probably back me up on this. For people who are conflict avoiders (I'm one of em) when they feel they've pushed too hard they stop pushing....and that is usually just about that if they'd push just a little more they would get some results. It's not that you have to do a huge shove or anything like that....but by pushing just a bit harder in this instance you could be doing something like sexual touches to really communicate to her that you want her....and that you're thinking of her sexually even while dabilitated. And you may be out of commission for many things right now, but BJ's and HJ's are simply not out of the question. You could each take care of each other in other ways.
By that I mean...hugging her and letting you hands stray to her breasts, or even moving your hand under her shirt. If she's standing next to you and you're in a chair where you could easily drape your arm around her waist to give her a quick little hug...maybe put you arm through her legs so that you're kind of hugging her thigh but your arm is touching her crotch....it can even be as simple as when my H and I sit on the couch he almost absentmindedly lightly straces my leg, arm or neck with his fingers when we're sitting together. It's something I really like...and it gets the sparks going in me.
