To begin with: My left leg is in a brace, and I can't bend it, at least until after about a week from today, when I'll be allowed to release the hinges on the brace and bend the knee while sitting etc., but I'll have to lock it up again if I want to walk anywhere. A round of physical therapy is still ahead before I can get rid of the brace entirely. Meanwhile, as soon as I'm able to get myself to work without my wife's help, she's going to schedule her own surgery to have her right foot fixed, which will mean anywhere from 6 to 12 weeks in a brace of her own (resembling a very large boot), and, given her medical history and the rate at which she heals, it's probably going to be closer to 12 weeks than 6. She wants to do it as soon as possible, as it's presently painful, especially for things like walking and driving.
She will tell me how she's feeling, if I ask her. I don't usually get an answer better than "So-so" these days, though. But if she's tired, or achy, or she has a stomachache, or a headache, she'll tell me. (Occasionally it's "I have a really bad migraine and I need you to get me to the emergency room NOW!")
Greeneyedlass, you suggest "do some sexual touches...see what happens." Can you give me examples of what would be appropriate "sexual touches" under these circumstances? I'm sorry if that sounds like a stupid question, but I really don't know these things and I don't want to do something that'll make matters worse.
When I said "next week," I meant "next Monday," since Monday was when the "icebreaker" event occurred, and the first evening I started her skin-care regimen. I suppose I could push that up to as early as Friday or Saturday, since I have had several comments from her already on how much better my face looks, my hands look, etc., since starting. As I've said, smokescreen or not, the skin thing is probably the best bargaining chip I have. I can tell her, "I've been following your recommendations exactly, and you've seen me do it. Your own comments tell me it's working. And I'm not going to stop now; we've already agreed on that point. So...what about you?" Or words to that effect. The key message is, "I've shown good faith, and now it's time for you to do the same," though not as harshly as I phrased it just now.
Greeneyedlass, honeypot, I know you want me to push harder. But part of me feels like I've pushed her too hard already.
- "A"
"Everything that happens, happens. Everything that, in happening, causes something else to happen, causes something else to happen. Everything that, in happening, causes itself to happen again, happens again."
