First of all...I've thought about your comment of waiting until next week to do anything. Don't put things off, if you do that then you are kinda shooting yourself in the foot too. I can understand having a big talk....then waiting a couple of days to bring it up again....but don't go a week.
Also, Honeypot is right....I know your W is trying to figure out her own sexuality, but do some sexual touches...see what happens.
As for when she's tired or achy and doesn't want to be touched....does she tell you that she's feeling this way, or are you supposed to just know? Hopefully she tells you.
Oh and of course you aren't psychic...that's why the communication between the two of you is soooo important to work on. She needs to understand that you are a different person and cannot read her mind, no matter how well you know her....and that you do not expect her to read yours either.
To be honest with you I really don't expect her to come right out and boldly tell you a need that she's not having met....that would be rare. What I really expect to have happen is she's going to side-step the real issues for awhile because she doesn't want the pressure of having to address them.....so she's likely to throw up smoke-screens and have YOU work on physical improvements on yourself...or find all sorts of outside reasons such as ....too busy, I have to do xyz first, it's too late tonight to talk about it...stuff like that.
Here's a tool that I and a few others use when trying to discuss something difficult too...when you get an "I don't know" answer. If you ask her something and she's constantly telling you "I don't know", simply say "Ok, I can accept that, but I'd like you to really think about it and we can talk about this again in a couple of days."
If you say that...then make sure to follow up, don't expect her to come to you...she probably won't. Using a phrase like that lets the other person know that this is important to you, and you aren't going to let it go...at some point they will have to talk about it.
It's just a tool I use that I have success with when it comes to my H. I recommend using it "if" you get the constant "I don't knows"
