ME1967, I meant that it could sound so...well, crude if I just came out and said it up front. But you seem to be advising a much slower approach. That may work better, though if she asks, "What do you mean by that?" at any stage of the game, I'm at a loss for words.
OK, new information. During the after-bath moisturizing this evening, I let her start applying the lotion to my back before working on my own arms.
Me: "That feels really good, honey."
Her: (no response, but continues, telling me to move forward so she can get my lower back)
Me: "When you do this for me, it makes me feel loved."
Her: (picks up some medicated ointment from the counter) "This is for your leg." (proceeds to start moisturizing my entire right leg, the one not in the brace)
Me: (sudden inspiration!) "Maybe I should do this for you once you get your surgery."
Her: "No, I don't like people touching me--well, maybe my back, but other parts of my body, no."
Me: (thinks: "Well, that flew like a lead brick.")
And she finished with my leg and other foot (spraying some anti-itch spray on top of everything) and left me to do my arms and torso as usual.
This all happened not half an hour ago. Perhaps this provides more information which can clarify the situation.
- "A"
"Everything that happens, happens. Everything that, in happening, causes something else to happen, causes something else to happen. Everything that, in happening, causes itself to happen again, happens again."
