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Liv, even though you share a L, could that fellow contact H and tell him he can't unilaterally change the financial arrangements without potentially facing court action? That way, he's protecting H's interests, too. What do you think? I think it matters what the intention of the L is when he relays advice to a client! So, if the L INTENDS to save H the risk of punishment, then he's acting in the client's best interest.





It did occur to me that they could surely do that.

I got another email from H this morning.

Says when I am with my family in other country, he expects me to get D to ring him, as he won't ring. Because he claims my brother in law refused to pass on messages or tell him when he could talk to D.

What happened, only months after the bomb in the summer of 2003, is that H rang once just after nine in the evening, and D was already in bed (my sis and brother in law are particular about kids being in bed before adult TV starts, unlike H, and good for them. D was seven at the time.) So when H rang, my BIL picked up and told H that D was already in bed, asleep, so no, he couldn't speak to her. Then he asked to speak to me. I had already told BIL and sis that I didn't wish to speak to my H, this was while he was holed up with OW1. He had the option of sending me emails about anything important. So when BIL said I didn't want to speak to him, he got hopping mad and abusive. Then he rang again and sis picked up and he was abusive with her, and she doesn't take that stuff, and told him so. Ever since he has not wanted to ring that house. He later wrote me a stupid email about how I am trying to interfere with access to his daughter....

But it is the same story isn't it - he is rude, agressive and abusive, and then plays the vicitm about no one wanting to deal with him!

Next he tells me if I want to know the amount for the house tax, I will have to ring him, then he will tell me the amount and email me the document. Yes, he is emailing me to tell me to ring him, so that he can email me something. Just shows the depths of his perversity. He points out that it is not his job to do this for me (Like I told him it wasn't my job to ferry D into town for him to visit). He says he pays his accountant, who prepares the document...

As it is the same accountant as my good friend, I got the telephone number off her, rang said accountant, and he sent the document to me by email in a few seconds flat. This is going to make H mad... but I am soooooooooooo tired of his games.

Next H says that while I expected him to tell me his plans for the summer two or three months ago, I only told him about going to other country a week ago.

What can you say about this man? I am NOT interested in his summer plans in the slightest, except the part where he wants to have D, and I GAVE HIM FIRST CHOICE, as it states in the agreement (alternate years, first choice, to be decided by end April). He sees that as me pulling a fast one on him! I was only able to make my travel plans after hearing about when he wanted D anyway. My flights cost more because of booking later. The guy is barking mad. He is so keen to spite me, that he will cut off his nose.

Then H ends his email with saying that he will be glad to hear from my lawyer, so he has the opportunity to discuss our agreement and make it more equitable.

All I can say is, this man is past reason. Well past it. I wonder if discussing anything with him, with or without a solicitor, will get me anywhere. He can ONLY think of himself.

Livnlearn

"The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates