Hi Liv,

I wish I had some wonderful words of advise. I am not dealing with someone narsissitic so can't even pretend to know what it's like to walk in your shoes.

I can say that you are doing a great job in keeping your dealings with your H very business like. Once you can pull the emotion out of the equation, it becomes much easier.

I would suggest getting another L. I know that money is an issue, but I think it would be well worth the expense to get it across to your H that you ARE NOT playing games, and you will not be bullied. You can't tell him that. Well you can, but he's not going to hear you. A cheeseless tunnel.

You seem to be getting stronger every day, just like what Moving was talking about (i've been reading up on her threads too). Keep working on yourself, getting stronger and more confident. Most likely the stronger you become, the more H will resist. Hopefully at some point he will come to the realization that you will not be bullied, and you will take care of not being a doormat.

You deserve a gold star!

Take care!
JL


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