Liv, I agree with the others. I read that mortgage thing as you had already altered the agreement unilaterally, and I thought that set him up to be able to say, "You did it, I can, too." Now I understand better.
I think maybe even language which says "We are still married and you are obligated to support your wife and child" would be very powerful and appeal to his need to feel significant.
I could be wrong.
Can I say it? You and I did marry jerks after all.
