At the time of our separation, I was in no position to earn much. It says in the agreement that after six months, the parties will look at things again and see if I am earning more and can adjust the payments.
I started out not paying the mortgage at all, then I started paying about 40% then went to 50% this January. I have stepped up what I pay without us going to the courts over it, by agreement between us.
Now H thinks he should pay just half the cost of D, while I have all the responsibility of looking after her. He can't even be bothered to make sure she does all her homework when he has her two weekends a month.
He is a good time Dad. Didn't make it to a single school event at the end of this year, of about six. Says he has nowhere to stay in town. What happened to all his "friends", the ones who "couldn't get along with me" around the time of the bomb? And anyway, he manages to get into town often enough to buy his toys, like DVDs, and the latest - an ipod.
We are not even divorced yet, and he is obliged to maintain his wife and child.
So I am not pointing out stuff for brownie points, but to show that I am willing to negotiate, but not be bullied.
He caused a violent scene on Christmas eve while here, in front of D. I think he thinks this kind of behaviour gets results. I have to put my foot down and prove it doesn't work like that.
Livnlearn
"The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates
