I am just about to leave for other country at the end of this week - to stay with my sister, so this is just another hassle I don't need. I seem to constantly use up my energy and time dealing with this, and then H wonders what I do all day?

Our lawyer says to write him a letter advising him to pay the remainder, or else I will be forced to go to a lawyer. Our lawyer says he cannot send a letter to represent me, as our agreement was "consensual". I would have to get another lawyer to represent just me.

I think the gloves are off.

He is a big bully. He wouldn't dream of behaving like this with one of his erstwhile male "friends" that he lent a significant amount of money to years ago and who has no intention of ever paying it back.

Livnlearn

"The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates