I have to agree with Sd, your H doesn't want to "get it".

Lnl, while I don't think my H is in the same boat as yours, I see some similarities. They choose to not "get it".

Like Ellie said, wait until the next time it is brought up. He threatened to cut payments if you don't respond, well, you are not under any obligation to respond. That's just more button pushing on his part.(control)

You're right, you may have reached the point of communications by lawyers. However, I think I would try to keep them out of it for awhile longer. Once you go that route, the expense could get out of hand. Not to mention you could be feeding H's anger. Hasn't H in the past pushed this issue and then it gets dropped to the back burner? Wait and see what happens. You can always have the lawyer write him a letter.

Your doing great! Pattie

When you can't make a decision because you are torn between your heart and your head, listen to the half with the brain.