Quote: He lists that he supported me and D the whole length of our marriage.
Then, he owes you spousal support while you transition into being able to provide for yourself. Use that statement as proof if need be.
Quote: H said, you haven't even replied to my email of a month ago.
I said, you haven't EVER replied to some of my emails.
He said, which one? I said, for example, around Easter.
H made out he didn't know what I was talking about.
Not that you asked, Liv, but I've found it just doesn't pay to even engage like that. He's bringing you down to his level (which is underneath a snake's belly). Just keep out of it and let his stupid allegations hang in the air. You cannot out-talk a narcissist.
Quote: He said he was coming down on Tuesday and wanted to see D for a few hours. And wanted me to take her into town. I said, no can do, I have lessons etc. He said, you always have lessons!
Good for you for setting a boundary. You are not alive for his convenience. Period. If he wants to see her, he can come and get her. And return her on time.
Don't be so worried about the secretiveness of your daughter on the phone. She may be whispering about a gift for you, or some plan of how she'd like to spend time with her dad. As I recall, girls her age are very much into fantasy, magic, castles and princesses. I imagine her dad indulges her and she feels quite princess-like.
Her R with her dad is, afterall, her business. She's quite young, but it's still the case.
Good luck on your meeting with your L. I hope he or she really works as your advocate in this difficult sitch.
