H spoke on the phone to D this evening and then spoke to me. He said he was coming down on Tuesday and wanted to see D for a few hours. And wanted me to take her into town. I said, no can do, I have lessons etc. He said, you always have lessons!
H said, you have NEVER ever brought her into town (that's a lie, I did, and the last time last year I was made to feel like a servant dropping off my charge, with OW2 lurking nearby while H enjoyed a beer, and I vowed I wouldn't be humiliated that way again)
I said, it is not my job to do so.
H said, you haven't even replied to my email of a month ago.
I said, you haven't EVER replied to some of my emails.
He said, which one? I said, for example, around Easter.
H made out he didn't know what I was talking about.
He said when he came down on Tuesday he would go to his bank and make sure his payments were halved.
I said, you do that and see where it gets you, and put down the phone.
I hate dealing with this man. I don't want to ever have to deal with him ever again.
Another thing that interested me was that when D was talking to him in her room I could hear her chatter but not really what she was saying. At one point, she went to her door and said, just one moment, I have something to tell you, and closed her door.
I know she needs her privacy, but I do wonder what needs to be said in private like that...
Oh, here we go, the expected threatening email from H just arrived. Blah blah blah.... his version of history... it seems I never contributed *anything* to our first house... (except single-handedly cleaned it and totally painted/decorated it before we moved in, in the stinking heat of the summer without any electricity or running water or anything, furnished it with mostly my own furntiture and some I bought, some we bought with H's money, kept house there - cleaned and cooked and looked after it... used mostly my bed linen and towels, pots and pans... but no, I didn't contribute anything...)
Ooooooooh, I just want to give the man a huge KICK up the you know what.
He lists that he supported me and D the whole length of our marriage. Apparently I did nothing.
Let me start with MY version of history, beginning with how I paid every single penny for the wedding and reception for 80 guests, down to paying FOR MY OWN RING - he didn't even offer to pay for that as a token gesture! The reason is that we got married in the country where I was living at the time, and it seemed silly to get his money over to pay for half, and lose out with the exchange rate etc. But he seems to have overlooked a *few* little facts like that...
I know, I know, I should know better than to get mad about what he says and does any more.
I actually emailed him back one line stating what I had told him on the phone - that I had been very busy lately and that I would get back to him shortly.
That is, after my lawyer's appointment tomorrow.
Livnlearn
"The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates
