A peaceful life

[Livnlearn]

H called last evening to talk to D, then she passed the phone to me. I imagined it would be about H's plan to take D out to lunch from school today. In fact, he asked me about our trip, where did we go? And had my sister left? etc. I answered, but did not go into any details.

He tells me he will pick up D on Friday evening to take her away for the weekend, as he is getting a lift with w3 in her car. I hope D doesn't miss her karate class, as she has an exam for her orange belt next week.

This morning, H rings, and I let it go to voicemail. H is annoyed, and leaves a message to say would I please give his mail to D so she can give it to him at lunch? He grumbles that I won't pick up the phone.

I won't pick up the phone because -

I often end up feeling used, annoyed or perturbed by something H says.

He is often telling me to do stuff that I am not going to do any more, like get him stuff and send him his mail etc.

When he doesn't get the answer he wants, he abuses me.

My PMA is way up when I don't have any contact with him, and comes way down when I do have to deal with him, bar talking about straightforward arrangements regarding D etc.

Anyway, when he rang again later, I picked up, told him I had got his message, and was putting his mail in her schoolbag. And that was that. I am going to request him one more time to change his address with the important companies, like his credit card company, and then start returning his mail to sender in another month or so, if he doesn't do so. I don't care for the additional contact his mail coming here generates.

Yesterday, H asks me what my plans for this summer are, as he plans to go away for a few weeks, and wants to go away at the same time as I might go away with D, so he is here when we are, so he gets to see D. Fair enough, but now he is all sweet reasonableness, though not when I ask him his plans! I had to tell him I had no fixed plans yet - true, as I have been waiting for HIS ANSWER all along, to plan around!

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