Quote: I commented that I am still struggling with my fear and anxiety, and he said "you don't need to" ....I asked him what he would do if she wants to start back up, and he didnt directly answer my question, just said, "she doesnt want to, nothings happened in 2 years and she's not interested in going any longer"....so I don't know what to think
Hey Girlfriend .. you are going to drive yourself AND your H crazy if you don't stop with the all of the struggling/questioning. While I know that dropping all of this is much easier said than done .. I'm thinking that it's looking like it's your time to finally do this. .. AND I mean really do this ! You need to do this within yourself, so that you are not reflecting your fears outwardly. I'm not sure if I ever mentioned it .. but, I went on medication (antidepressent/anxiety prescription) for about one year. It truly helped me so that my anxiety was not so overwhelming .. did not get the best of me. It got to a point (at first) that all of my agonizing resulted in all kinds of health problems cropping up. Another thing that helped was positive self-talk. It's amazing how repeating positive statements constantly to yourself will actually start you thinking/believing those things!
If your S is gone for a month, won't this give you an opportunity to try different GAL techniques?
