oh, wow, H is a grumpy gritchy growly bear this morning. I don't know what brought this on, I don't know if it's good or bad or nothing or what it's related to. He did tell me a couple of weeks ago that he's usually grumpy with me when things are not good w/ow because he's angry with her. ?????? who knows...
He was complaining about money, about the plumber we have to have this morning, about the cost, about living with finances so tight, about work, about bills. This is so out of the blue.
Last night when I got home he was ok, even talkative, cheerful, laughing, and initiated ml....now he's just spewing anger and discontent.
I just listened, did make some suggestions (big no no, I gotta get back to remembering not to do that)and he apologized for being so out of sorts, said he was just in a bad mood, couldnt he have a day in a bad mood....I smiled and said "no, never" jokingly, and hugged and kissed him.
Do they do this if they HAVE broken up with the op?
I've been thinking about what Ellie said on her thread about change....what I can change.........I don't know for sure, Ive been working on changing me, now I'm trying to think of more things I could do differently. Hard to come up with much.
I had thought of asking H this morning if we could talk sometime soon; it didnt take me long to decide this was NOT the OPTIMUM time to make a request like that.
I have a hard time containing my irritation at his ranting about finances sometimes though. Especially when I know he's paid some of ow's bill, bought her contacts...and when I was doing the taxes and going through old bank statements and checks, it became obvious that last spring he was spending 150 - 250 bucks PER WEEK at the convenience store/gas station....incredible. A couple of times it even came out to around $275.00. phone cards, I'm sure, he must have also been buying her gasoline and groceries there, is all I can figure out. sucks. really makes me po'd. our budget absorbed that for a long long time, and now I get to lesson to him piss and moan about us being broke and how "she manages to pay her bills on what she makes"............I guess I oughta hang on to those checks, I have them in a box, but not sorted out. still kinda makes me ill.
I have never mentioned this to him, it would just make him angry and defensive and more irrational. but it sure is a temptation when he throws this stuff out to me.
