Hi Mollie. I know you are right on the money about so much stuff here, but what is really getting to me is that this is the 5th time I have heard that it's over...maybe even 6th. I can quote the dates....lets see, June 6 2004; that time he bawled and carried on like a baby for a whole weekend, I actually held him like a little kid for days at a time then. wham he cheered up and was back w/her by the time we left for vacation two weeks later. Labor day weekend, last fall....pretty much the same story, he tells me "this other thing is over"...and I know because of emails I found that they were back together by 9/15 or 16. let's see, next time would be I believe December 23...I found out about an out of state trip he took with her and read him the riot act, got the "it's over" song and dance and crying routine....January 27 or 28/05....I confronted him because I realized he was taking his ring off when ever he was at work....(he still hasnt worn it for 6 weeks now) and got a song and dance number about "its over, she asked him not to rub it in her face" so he didnt wear it around her ; April 20, 2005, I confront him when he makes all kinds of last minute excused not to attend the required annual dinner meeting here at work. I got there, realize the w---e wasnt there either, went home steamed, confronted him, go the "it's over" spiel repeated about 5 times that night, then saw a phone bill where they'd been on the phone for an hour 2 days before the meeting. coincidence????? and now....all this comes after she read my emails to him, his to me, 9 days ago....only thing that's different is his email from earlier that "you can rest assured that the other relationship has been addressed and taken care of for good"....I cant seem to help thinking "yeah right"....this just seems to me like an inordinate amount of time and lies told, I don't know, maybe it's not. I wish I knew. Obviously, I believe, my acting as if and choosing not mention ow/a was helping to maintain his idiotic idea that he could keep both his M and his A going.
I really dont know what to do. I hate like hell to give up on my M, I really do love him, but........?????
Has anyone ever gotten it back together after this long?????
; April 20, 2005, I confront him when he makes all kinds of last minute excused not to attend the required annual dinner meeting here at work. I got there, realize the w---e wasnt there either, went home steamed, confronted him, go the "it's over" spiel repeated about 5 times that night, then saw a phone bill where they'd been on the phone for an hour 2 days before the meeting. coincidence????? and now....all this comes after she read my emails to him, his to me, 9 days ago....only thing that's different is his email from earlier that "you can rest assured that the other relationship has been addressed and taken care of for good"....I cant seem to help thinking "yeah right"....this just seems to me like an inordinate amount of time and lies told, I don't know, maybe it's not. I wish I knew. Obviously, I believe, my acting as if and choosing not mention ow/a was helping to maintain his idiotic idea that he could keep both his M and his A going. 
