boy, I keep beating myself up about blowing it night before last when I got so upset at H's sharing. Darn it, anyway. I really missed a chance to get some insight and new ideas by causing him to clam up. I'm not sure how I'll ever get him to open up again. any tips any one can offer???? Is it possible to ever get him to open up again?????
I'm thinking of Ellie's earlier post:
Quote: But YOUR behavior has to be so good, kind and unconditionally loving that he can recognize how manipulative and selfish hers is (takes them a while after withdrawal to see this - took my H a few months to admit it).
I see how important this is. I just wish I had been able to manage better. I guess I just wasnt prepared. I also hope I didnt send him the excuse he needs to run right back to her. It really was/is a missed opportunity. I've been thinking/wondering about how to increase nonsexual intimacy, he finally opens up, and I do that. darn darn darn darn and damn!
