thanks all, every word you've shared helps a lot. I've read the part about "windows" into the A and the M, and I think that's why I usually feel better when H does talk about it. I don't know, I just couldnt hear about the poor poor victimized ow last night though. So, yes, I will have to stop him. I had a thought about something he told me that i could use in dbing, and I'm so tired I cant remember it now. hopefully it will come to me soon. I gotta go pick up S's bike from the shop, then I'm gonna call the attorney.
