Hi Deb,

I read in Shirley Glass's book "Not Just Friends" that the A. provides a window into the M but there is no similar window for the W into the A.

Dr.Glass wrote that for things to heal there must be a reversal and a window from the M into the A.

I feel that looking at what happend with H in this way may help. I think his sharing is a way of letting go of this secret life.

I can only imagine how hard it must have been to hear but it may be carthartic for him and maybe useful for you to hear.

Agree with Sage its cleansing a wound. But like Ellie says stop him when you have had enough.

If it helps I have prayed that my H would talk to me about the A. and tell me why etc.and what he felt.and would have liked if he coudl do that.


That said, every person is different in how much they want to know about the A.

Hang in there,there is no rush to end your M. If you need to do it you can always do that. For now try and take it one day at a time.

We are all rooting for you.