Sending you positive energy!I read in one of my many books and on this BB that when the A ends that there is a grieving period and that you have to give your H room to grieve.
I know this sucks and may be hard to accept. But remember in such a sitch that your H has chosen to stay with you and loves you. So if you could try to see it from his POV. and accept that althought he has agreed to do this that it may not be easy for him.
I know he created this but there it is.
I know about this because it was something I thought of as being possible in my own sitch. It was hard to deal with but helped me in dealing with H.
I pray this works out for you. I think you did the right thing by setting some boundaries. God Bless.
