deb, u r doing great! i know you will have some reservations about everything, but if you can, try and have some fun with him. dont expect anything ground breaking. dont try for a deep r talk, even though you may WANT one more then anything. just be fabulous!! no pressure no worries. it is just one day, not the rest of your life. OW will most definatly be pressuring him and trying for the deep talks and demanding all kinds of things. she will use guilt, you can battle guilt with fun. if you were in your h's shoes, would you rather turn to the carefree happy funloving w of many years, or an OW who is demanding and angry and full of guilt?
you can still protect yourself. you dont have to just let your gaurd down. just be yourself.
