and, Dawn, yep, you're so right about needing to let go of "baiting him"........I'll admit I do that every now and then.
I did get some antibiotic yesterday, and weirdly enough I believe they've helped in 24 hours. I just got samples, I have to check back w/dr. tomorrow to see if its what the culture indicates is needed, but I'm thinking it must be since i feel better pretty rapidly.