Quote: 4) DON'T bring up the OW's birthday or her present again. If HE brings it up, just say "look, I'm sorry I brought that up, I really don't think we should talk about it now. I KNOW you are ending things with her and I trust you to get it done without hurting me any more". (Wording here is VERY important - you KNOW he is ENDING things (ACT AS IF) and you TRUST him to get it DONE without HURTING YOU MORE (which reminds him that OW's feelings are not the only ones that have been hurt)).
Ellie, I'm going to print this off to try to keep the words on the tip of my tongue, and the info about the journal. I'm not sure I will bring it up, but I will clarify it if it comes up. It hadnt occured to me that he would take it that I was writing stuff to get at him with, but of course he would, that makes sense.
