Hi Mollie, thanks, you make some really good points here. I was talking about letting go of the sitch, but H took it to mean of him, and it didnt get a good response at all. of course he was probably pretty sensitive to that after the weekend.
He did apologize, quite tearfully, last weekend, for the "mess he's made"...the priest talked about the self-hatred that has to be consuming him right now, so I think you're right that it's going to be really important to not whap him over the head with that, but to be a steadfast friend. boy, that is going to be a challenge at times.
great words of wisdom:
Quote: I believe one of the things that got my H back to me was to forgive and move on. I don't talk about the past and even though it was a hurtful time, I don't need to go over it and remind him what an A$$ he was. I know he appreciates it.
I'm going to try to be focused on this and ready to move on if I need to at the same time, if that makes any sense. I can see what a challenge it will be. wow. still one minute at a time is the only way to deal with it I think.
