Hi Debra. I've appreciated your support so much. I've gotta get an email off to you to check up on you!
I've thought alot about whether or not I should go with him on Friday, and i can handle it. I'm frankly looking forward to some "goof-off time" on my own...no parenting or wifely or work stuff to worry about, just...goofing off. i can just sit in the park and watch the birds all day if I want. READ for FUN! dig through all the little junk stores that bore H speechless. If we fought all the way there and back, which we won't , it would still be worth it.
yeah, I've been working on not worrying now about letting him know what I know, although I'm cautious to not play every hand at once. Evidently when ow read my emails yesterday, she was upset about something I said about her...I made reference to the stuff she emails him about and her bday on Saturday, and evidently it really stirred up her nutsyness. H said she made some comment, and he told her I'm not dumb, that I know alot and pick up on a lot, and that he's told her that before & it always gets her upset, then she accuses him of sticking up for ME....man, the more I type this the more wacko I think that b--ch is.
I would be willing to go to the priest with H, I don't know if he would. I am thinking that if we can kinda get rolling, I may see if H wont go to a Retrouvaille or Marriage Encounter weekend, he may be more amenable to one of those as they are more "private". I think either would help us.
I worry big time about the waffling, BUT if ow starts pitching fits, I think it will help him. maybe I need to pray for her to do just that!!!!! let her show her true colors. H HATES conflict and he hates drama and he has a hard time with change.
Actually, the town we'll be going to Friday would be a top choice for us to move to if we decided to. it maybe something we could discuss. It's where he went to grad school and D and SIL went to undergrad, and we all really like it. higher cost of living, though...
