My honest response to your post was.....WHOA Nellie!!! I feel like you're charging at him guns a-blazin. Of course I know you've also just summed up what's going on with you two.
He may NEVER read the book, most of our spouses never do....don't push him to read it or he may resist and that book may never see the light of day (by his doing) again....you might at some point ask what he thinks of it, since you noticed him reading it one time. But I wouldn't keep setting it out for him to see etc. He knows where the book is if he wants to read it.
Also, I just posted those intimacy needs last night....don't expect him to respond quickly on this...it may take him awhile to figure out what his are, it wasn't easy for me (and I thought I knew myself pretty well). I'd at least give him a few days to think about it and then maybe ask if he's had a chance to fill it out...if he hasn't then offer to sit down and work on it together (for both of you).
You are like me in the fact that we both want to jump in and fix things, NOW. LOL. And we want our H to "want" to fix things just as much as we do. I believe both of our H's want to fix things....but they go about doing things differently than we do.....we cannot force our style of problem solving on them, we have to find a happy medium (and that's been the hardest thing for me).
I think I have finally managed to find that "happy medium" with my H....we're now talking more, he's now more physical etc. But it took me saying what I want to say....and then backing waaaaaay off for him to come out of his shell.
Also, something I do to draw my H out is to read out loud to him (he's not a fan of reading)....so if nothing else in a few days if your H hasn't filled out the list you gave him, read one out loud (like you're trying to read it and do it for yourself) and ask his opinion, does he think you value this....does he value it?
Sounds like you guys are doing great though, just relax a bit
