I’ve got a question for you all, but first I need to tell you what has been happening for the last few of weeks.

Just a reminder that I talked to H on 5/17 via a letter. Then, we had another couple of talks on the 19th. From the 17th through the 24th, we made love 5 times. Not bad after an 8 month dry period.

On the 29th, I found out that my grandmother had died, so we all flew out for her funeral. She was 90, had lived a good life, so while sad, I wasn’t devastated.

I had my period over Memorial weekend and then H had an earache caused by a bad cold and then flying. So, 15 days go by without making love. No big deal, considering what has been going on, so I’m not complaining there. H initiated on 6/8.

Other parts of our relationship are going well. We spend a lot of time together, are affectionate with one another and the kids. On the surface, life is excellent.

Now, here are my gripes and I need to know if I should push or if I should let it go and enjoy our life.

1. H had started reading SSM. He put it up prior to his mother’s visit a couple of weeks ago and has not pulled it back out. I have no idea where the book is, so I can’t go get it and lay it on his desk… Do I push him to read it?
2. I had asked him a couple of questions about his feelings about discussing sex, but never got a reply and then there was the funeral. Do I bring it back up or let sleeping dogs lie?
3. I sent him GEL’s Ten Key Intimacy Needs questionnaire and asked him to list his and what he thought were mine. I did this last night, haven’t gotten a response back or acknowledgement that he even read the email. Again, do I push?

I guess I need to know whether I should push the relationship discussions and book reading when things are going so well? By doing so, am I telling him through my actions that I am not satisfied with his efforts?

And he is trying so hard. He makes sure that we spend time together daily – even if it’s just holding hands and watching TV. He initiates affection in our daily lives – not sloppy, wet kisses or other sexually laden come ons – but real affection; simple touches, acknowledgements that he is aware that I am here and he’s happy that I am. We talk constantly about our daily lives, what’s happening with the kids, what we’re doing, etc.

So, again, do I let him off the hook and just enjoy our life?