I did ask him that actually - early in our relationship. I don't remember the conversation verbatim, but I do remember that it was a telephone conversation and I asked a question about what he liked.
He said that he wasn’t used to discussing sex and although other partners had asked him this same question, he wasn’t comfortable answering. I asked him if it was because he was kinky and he kind of coughed and said no. He just wasn’t comfortable answering that question. I told him that he was selfish then. If he couldn’t share with the person that he was intimate with and supposedly loved, who could he share with?
He defended himself. He said that sex was never discussed in his household growing up. He and his brother were raised by his mother. She and his father had separated when he was very young and he was not part of their lives.
I suppose that I have not asked him how he feels exactly, now that I read this. Yes. I will ask him. That will be my question for tomorrow.
