I take that to mean that it's not that he doesn't want you...it's that he's the type of man who needs your help to get him to the actual "desire & wanna do something about it" phase of things...in other words arousal = desire, Michelle does talk about this.
My H is this way...but he's working on understanding this and doing things conciously that he knows will lead to arousal for him, so I'm not always the one having to initiate and get the ball rolling.
