Yes, you did do a good job of outlining what he could do. But do some more thinking on it...are there other things that he could do (that he hasn't done) that you would interperet as want/desire/love? Kind of give him a menu he can choose from...and maybe even try some different things. There may be lots of things he thought of trying...but didn't because he might not know how you would respond. That's why I said define what YOU would interperet as that. Was there any one thing in particular that he did that just Shouted "I LOVE YOU!!"?
See for me, and just speaking for myself here, I really had to think back on what made me feel loved/wanted. My list contains many things non-sexual, which surprised me....but I've found that when he makes an effort to do those non-sexual things for me that, at the minimum, I feel loved by him...and that is what has really helped me to continue working on our issues, maintain my patience, and re-establish our emotional connection. Just some food for thought.
And you are absolutey correct you must tell him what you want/need...and work on doing that in the moment (which isn't easy, I still struggle with this one). He may not step-up and start communicating much at first, which is very frustrating when you are working so hard....but eventually with consistency, understanding, and persistence from you...he will.
