Also...take some time to define for yourself what you believe him "wanting you" is, what would it look like? What can he do that will communicate he wants/desires you?
Maybe I'm reading this wrong, but I thought I had. I told him what he did to make me feel loved.
And yea, I have already dealt with the "he only made love last night because he was backed in the corner" syndrome. But here's how I'm working through it.
I need to tell him what I want and what pleases me, just as he needs to tell me what he wants and what pleases him. It's much like a new partner in bed, he's not a mind reader and he needs to be told or at least guided to know what rocks my world. Right? It's the same in other areas.
And couples tend to become complaisant in a relationship and need gentle reminders of what is expected from their partner. It's a two way street.
So, let's say that in order for him to know that I love him, he needs me to hang from the ceiling and sing the Star Spangle Banner. I just don't get that, but if that's what he needs, then I'm going to do it because I love him and want him to know that I love him.
To me, it's a big chore to hang from the ceiling and I really feel uncomfortable doing so, but damned if I won't have that step ladder out as often as he needs me to have it out.
