I wanted to echo that I think you have had a very good start. I do say start because the reasons that sex has fallen to the bottom of your H's list are still there. You can read post after post here where we HDs responded like eager puppies when our H's reached out (your physical response was rather typical too)only to have them summarily drop the ball right afterward.
Now, more than ever you need to read the Five Love Languages, Passionate Marriage and some of the other books suggested. You need to get your part in the R clear in your head. You need to know which part you are responsible for and which part he is. You need to increase your ability to express your needs to him in a clear way which is not bogged down in unexpressed emotions other unsaid issues. You need to get clearer on what your H's needs and expectations are. The only way anyone here has ever gotten anywhere is through clear, consistent communication without the underlying stuff.
