Quote: OK, men... maybe I need to ask you then. Why would you rather masturbate than make love.........it cannot be fear of rejection......I don’t believe that I have ever rejected him.
Sorry ME1967. I am HD too and really can't answer all of your question. I would like real, in the flesh sex any day over MB'ing.
The first thing that did come to mind was he might be depressed or feel less valuable as a partner now, than at one time.
How about asking him? There are too many potential reasons to come up with and 90% might be wrong.
You might say, Hon, you know "we" don't do much/anything in the bedroom but sleep. We used to have sex X times a month when we were (________). I am missing the emotional and physical connection we had at that time. I really miss it because I am starting to feel/do __________. Do you have sexual urges too? What do you do with those feelings. What do you think we could work out so I feel more like a wife instead of a room mate?
