Hi ME....Welcome to the board. I really do feel for you as I remember those early convos with my H as being incredibly difficult and scary. The one thing that stands out in my mind is that my H did not " get it" until he saw how serious the issue was for me. You do take a risk, and you are jeopardizing the family, but you begin to realize that it is really okay...okay to be a person who has needs and who has limits. It's an important growth experience, whatever the outcome, and the amazing thing that happens is something Honeypot talked about...you begin to see how you have sold yourself out and how truly bad you were feeling about yourself.
I hope things turn out well for you...recognize that there may be a long road ahead.
