This post sounds almost identicle to my LDH. Can you tell us some of what his history is like in other R's? The reason I ask is my H has had some horrible experiences w/women in his past. They emasculated him, berated him...used sex as a weapon, and made him feel like he was the wierd/strange one because he wanted it...they eventually made him truly believe women didn't want sex. We are now battling back from that damage.
