I'll ditto what LP said on the other thread. Your story is sadly familiar to me. Especially the part about feeling like you're normally a person who doesn't have an especially high need for affirmation but this situation making you feel so needy in that way.
The other thing that is interesting to me is that your H is a househusband. Unfortunately, I must inform you that though deep in my feminist soul I wish this was an arrangement that worked, both instances of this that I've encountered in real life worked out terribly. My one real life friend who was in a SSM had a househusband who went completely LD on her. She ended up having an affair with a man she worked with and left him even though they had 3 small children. She did marry the guy she had the affair with and they were happy last I heard but I haven't kept in touch with her so I don't know the end of the story. The other househusband I knew became an alcoholic and let the children wander unattended around the neighborhood. The other thought I had about the fact that your H is home alone all day is that he is almost certainly "using" internet porn. This is the case with the majority of the LD men posting or posted about on this BB. I was almost able to deal with my H's low drive when I thought it was just due to depression or something similar. When I found out he was having sex with porn instead of me, I blew a gasket and joined this BB. Things have improved with my sich but there are still days that I feel like I must have been suffering from a peculiar form of mental illness to tolerate the situation for as long as I did and I wonder if I've managed to recover completely.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
