My W also complains a lot about tiredness and aches and pains (headaches). She has aged a lot in the past couple of years. She also wears "young" clothes, works out in bright pink outfits, colored her hair etc. This may be part MLC for them, part self-therapy. Not much can be done about that. My W, like yours has no OM, and it will be interesting to see if she dates after D and if so where that goes. I certainly think that for career-minded, academic-type women, with all the pseudo-feminist (please dont get me wrong I am completely pro-women's-rights and all that- but I believe in rational thought as well) talk that they are exposed to, the coming of a child can be very confusing. My W is really lost and does not know who she is any more. Even the way she talks can change day-t-day. Sometimes she will use exaggerated hand movements that seem so fake, other times so will put her hands in her pockets and rock back and forth (??!). Anyway, I just am going to keep that sun shining from the behind attitude. And, yes, never expose your weakness (lack of sleep, tired etc.). With my W it elicits nothing but more coldness.
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The 3 laws of DBing:
1. PMA is critical to DBing.
2. Since drop in WAW's PMA leads to drop in LBS's PMA and vice-versa detachment is critical.
3. Validate to raise WAW's PMA and GAL to raise LBS's.
