Ukeejo, I still use 'W' cause the 'X' has a rough impression on me - seems like she's dead or s/t. One less word to type. I definitely don't see her as my wife anymore, but she's truly the same person that I love. Some changes in her - some for good, some not. Yep, I'm still working at it for now.
GAL work is probably that much more important post-D than D. It falsifies or makes irrelevant that impression by some that suggest that I just move on, 'cause I am! I'm moving on with personal growth, self-care, and my eyes on my future goals. Still with the door open for her, though, which makes all the difference.