As I was reading your most recent post, I have to admit that I had tears in my eyes when I read that your son prayed tonight to please bring his family back together... I am not sure if I ever shared with you the fact that I work with kindergarten students, but I also agree with you that seperation and divorce tend to regress children. Although my stepson is thirteen years old, I remember when I was still living with him and my H... My stepson was getting A's & B's in school. The last time I spoke with my H over the phone, I asked how my stepson was doing and he said that his grades have dropped considerably. He is now getting low C's and in one class a borderline D. Now, don't get me wrong here... I am not saying that my presence in that house enabled him to get good grades; however, it is pretty obvious that his grades have suffered b/c of the instability in his house and probably a little to do with the fact that he is left home alone quite often while my H is still at work.
Gabriel... You mentioned that when you and your son were having one of your "light saber duels" tonight that he seemed to have some anger toward you to let out... Perhaps you are right, but IMHO I believe that your little boy has pent up anger that is not necessarily directed towards YOU, but instead towards the whole situation. It is so similar to the people like us on this BB who have lost the dream of what a marriage would bring... Your son (and all other children who have parents who break up) is most likely grieving the loss of his family not living together anymore. I have no doubt that your son will excel with his reading.. You are such a wonderful father for purchasing the "Hooked on Phonics" series (I have heard good things about that program at the school that I work at)...
As hard as it may be to do, try not to let your W's negativity bring you down... The good part is that aside from your son, your W's crap is no longer really your crap anymore! You are such a positive, carefree, loving person and you do not deserve to be brought down by HER choice to think about life in such a negative way. I remember so clearly the beautiful "forgiveness" letter that you had written to her not too long ago... You stated that "you are free"... The one thing that you are free from is not having to deal with her negativity anymore. As you stated in your letter to her... You can return to the strong, manly, carefree, happy person that you were before you ever met her!
Who knows... perhaps her bad mood tonight was a combination of constipation from her mother's cooking, as well as it being "that time of the month" for her mentrual cycle... Your W is just being who she is and from what it sounds like on many of your posts, she tends to be somewhat of a negative person. The funny thing is that you are such the opposite of that... I see you as such a positve, free-spirited, happy person... I admire you in so many ways for those wonderful traits... Hang in there! Talk with you soon! -Kim
