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The more I learn about women, the more I realize how outmaneuvered guys are in generally.


Gabe,

I wanted to comment on your thread about this statement.

C'mon, you're an educator. You know that people basically have 3 avenues of taking in information, learning -- visually, audibly or kinesthetically (sp?). It just so happens that SO, as with most men, is a visual learner (particularly when it comes to sexual attraction and women).

Now, that said, think about how your SO takes in information. What is her language? Does she make "I see" statements, "I hear" statements, or "I feel" statements?

Personally for me, especially when it comes to sex, I am an audible person. Nothing can rev up my motor faster than a well-placed whisper in my ear of a baritone voice! GGGGGGGRRRRRRRRROOOOOOOOWWWWWWWWWWWWWwLLLLLLLLLL! Of course, I'm also a "feeling" person in that sitch too!

So, think about your SO and how she communicates. Think about the subtle things you did in the past that really tripped her trigger. There you will find the answer, my friend. If she's audible, then the next time you are together at S5's game, lean in close and say something innocuous but in a come-hither tone! If she's feeling, then use that language around her. Speak her language. Mirror her language. Once you've used enough "I feel" statements, then you can reach out and touch her arm in a warm and friendly manner, to punctuate a point, like you would with a good friend.

These are the tools, my friend. Men are just easier b/c they love "eye candy"! (Am I right, ladies???)

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