Lost, thanks for reminding me about her possible insecurity. I imagine the D is hard for her to face as well. And I hope you're right about it not necessarily being done to impress someone else.
Jo, I thank you for also noting that W's self-improvement could be about her self - only. I also loved your ability to call me on my controlling behavior. To be honest, I did catch a flavor of that in this, and need to stop that completely. Time to reemphasize unconditional love.
W responded to my email writing in capital letters only - I guess to signify anger? All appropriate with one small dig at me for being Catholic (my insurance is thru a church men's organization that she sees as anti-woman - not true but I'd done arguing w/her - another cheeseless tunnel).
She followed it immediately with a reminder for me to please attend S5's swim lesson, and a semi-friendly review of her arrangements of his summer camp and play dates that she's helping to arrange. Go figure? Maybe this new R of ours is becoming less fragile?
